Cunnilingus, an act of intimacy and pleasure, is much more than simple oral stimulation. It’s an art that requires attention, patience, and technique. Here are 13 practical tips for mastering cunnilingus—plus a simple daily exercise to boost your performance.
- Prepare your mouth
Before you start, make sure your mouth is well-hydrated. A dry tongue or lips can make the experience uncomfortable. A little water, lip balm, or edible lubricant can make all the difference.
- Explore gently
Don’t rush straight to the clitoris. Take time to explore the entire vulva and surrounding areas, like the inner thighs. This multiplies sensations and gradually builds anticipation.
- Vary your approach
Start with soft kisses, warm breaths, or gentle lip touches. Gradually introducing the tongue will make the experience richer and more intense.
- Use different paths
Stimulate the clitoris in various ways: top to bottom, bottom to top, side to side, or in circular motions. Each angle offers a unique sensation.
- Discover the clitoris
In some women, the clitoral hood partially covers the clitoris. Gently lifting the skin upward—without pulling directly on the clitoris—can expose the most sensitive area, often leading to intense pleasure.
- Alternate rhythms and intensity
Switch up pressure, speed, and the type of contact: flat tongue, tongue tip, kisses, fast or slow movements… Stay creative and attentive to your partner’s reactions.
- Include your fingers
Adding light digital stimulation can enhance the experience. Gentle caresses along the labia or light pressure at the vaginal entrance can amplify sensations.
- Try the “vacuum” effect
The “cuni-vacuum” involves gently placing your mouth over the clitoris or vulva and lightly sucking. This increases blood flow and heightens pleasure. Combine it with tongue movements for maximum effect.
- Read body language
Watch for reactions: pulling away can indicate discomfort, pushing toward you signals a desire for more pressure. Stay alert to every subtle movement.
- Let your partner adjust her position
Allow your partner to find the position that feels best. Avoid repositioning her legs or hips if she adjusts herself—it could disrupt her pleasure.
- Don’t change at the wrong moment
When you feel tension building (short breaths, tightened muscles), maintain your stimulation. Abrupt changes could break the momentum toward orgasm.
- Adjust after orgasm
After climax, the area becomes highly sensitive. Soften your touch or pause slightly to avoid causing discomfort. If she’s open to more, restart gently.
- Train your tongue
To avoid fatigue during longer sessions, strengthen your tongue daily! Here are three easy exercises:
- Click your tongue rapidly, mimicking a galloping horse.
- Press your tongue firmly against the roof of your mouth, then against the bottom of your mouth.
- Stretch your tongue backward, then fold it downward, holding for a few seconds.
Practicing these exercises 2–3 minutes a day will build tongue strength and endurance—key for mastering the art of cunnilingus.